Intimacy & Sexuality Coaching for Couples
I believe that our desire to work on our sexuality is more than just a call to fix something that’s not working. It’s a call to actualize our deepest desires around human connection.
I believe that sexuality work is transformative. It is life-changing. It is a sexual crucible that calls us to grow.
In fact, I believe challenges around sexual desire are about health and growth rather than pathology, an opportunity and a calling to step into the next level of self-realization and connection.
Which is why I take my clients through a sexual growth program that involves becoming our best selves in relationship with another person. It is a process of growing and evolving into being sexually mature, independent and available to connect to ourselves and our partners in a way that brings pleasure, joy and closeness.
It is a combination of learning about your sexual self, how to stand in your own truth, and how to meet another human being through sexual and emotional intimacy. It’s a process that involves all of you: your attitudes, thoughts, feelings and your body.
My work is heavily influenced by the evidence-based approaches and tools by John and Julie Gottman of the Gottman Institute, based on 30 years of couples research at the Love Lab at the University of Washington.
Custom Coaching Journey for Couples
Every coaching journey — whether it is with a couple or an individual client — is custom-tailored for your specific situation and is highly experiential and transformative. It also includes the following basic elements:
Desire & Self Expression
Self-expression might be one – if not the most important — way for people to connect, navigate and grow with each other and that requires acknowledging and knowing what you’re experiencing, feeling and wanting. Desire is a potent force for connection and intimacy when expressed purely from your most authentic self.
Most couples do not suffer from lack of communication; in fact, it’s the opposite. It is poor quality of communication that leaves couples feeling alone, unheard and misunderstood. How do you share in a way that your partner can hear you? How do you listen in a way invites your partner out? We work with concrete and practical tools to create communication that allows both partners to hear, understand and respect each other's inner worlds and build intimacy.
Sex, love & intimacy are expressed through the body. Before you can truly connect with another, you must first be able to feel yourself — all of you. We focus on the body — and in particular, on sexual pleasure — as a vehicle for self-discovery and intimacy building.
Emotional and Energetic Attunement
From masculine/feminine energetic polarities to picking up on your partner’s emotional nuances, attunement is a critical part of deepening sexual connection and satisfaction and feeling seen, heard and met.
Deep Inner Work
Deep sexual connection requires deep intimacy — and that is hard for all of us. It requires the capacity and willingness to go beyond our comfort zone and habits to both give and receive. To go deep, we must do our own individual inner work to unblocks what keeps us from meeting each other in the purest way.
In each coaching session, you will experience:
Experiential learning: through action and practice, we get to learn a different way
Real-time feedback: you’ll get honest, straightforward feedback and tools for improvement
Transformation of unhelpful habits: I will help you find freedom from habits that hold you back so you can get the results you want
Practice: exercising the new muscles with relevant, customized exercises during and between sessions
Communicate deep desires in a way that brings out the best in your partner
Feel pleasure in your body and bring energy to your sex and relationship
Relax into your feminine presence and let yourself enjoy the experience fully
Communicate your deep feelings and emotions in a way that creates trust, connection and turn-on between the two of you
Use your deep masculine energy to create trust and safety in the relationship for both of you to open up and create deep sexual fulfillment for both of you
Play her body like a music instrument with your body, energy and touch
Powerfully lead in your relationship from a place of deep integrity with your desire (which turns women on)
Understand what’s really keeping your woman from opening to you and how you can change that
- Discover each other with connection-deepening conversations and powerful physical/touch practices
Work through conflict around sex in a way that brings out the best in both of you and draws you closer
Learn about Slow Sex, sexual presence, sexual polarities and other energetic concepts to enhance your sexual experience
Share your desires and experience in a way that turns you on and brings you closer
Deepen intimacy in conflict and come towards each other when it feels like you want to pull apart
Become more present and attuned to each other’s energy to be able to meet each other and create turn-on and passion from ordinary situations
Turn communication gridlocks into vulnerable, intimacy-creating moments
Create physical and energetic connection to create "all-day foreplay" (and more intimacy)
Transform "performance" and "pleasing" modes to experience true intimacy and connection
Because I work with a small handful of clients at a time, you will get my full attention and awareness. I’m extremely selective about the clients I work with.
Fill out the form below or call me at 415 944 9560 to schedule a free 15-minute phone consultation.
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