What Is Sex Coaching?
Frequently Asked Questions
How is sex coaching different from sex therapy?
Sex coaching is very different from sex therapy, although there are some aspects of it that may feel like therapy. Coaching is about helping you have what you want by creating frameworks, practices and pathways to get you there.
While we will certainly talk about your past and how it impacts your beliefs and actions today, the focus of our work will be the present and the future—that is, what's working in what you're doing now, what needs to change, and what action you need to take to get you what you want.
Coaching is focused on breakthroughs and action (and play)—during and between sessions. Your success with coaching depends on how much you commit to your desire and participate in the learning between sessions.
Sex coaching is not meant to reverse any medical conditions and does not involve diagnosis or treatment. It’s a way to finally resolve what’s been keeping you stuck through supported action. When working with me, I will equip you with tools and practices that you will forever own to take charge of your sex life and create what you deeply desire.
Who are your clients?
I work with busy, smart women who are passionate at what they do–whether it’s managing their careers, families or businesses–and who want the same level of passion in their sex life. They want a deeper connection to their bodies–and they want to feel sexy and turned on, inside and out.
Many of my clients struggle with low libido, painful intercourse and extended periods without sex and come to me because of my own experience and expertise in reigniting libido and wanting sex again.
I also work with women who have gone through breast cancer or other cancer treatments and want to reconnect to their body and sexuality and feel good again.
How are you different from other sex coaches?
Unlike many sex coaches, I went through what many of my clients went through, and I understand the emotional, psychological and relational challenges of losing your libido as well as what it takes to reconnect to your body and your sex drive.
My approach to sex coaching is somatic (body-based) in nature, and it's rooted in pleasure. Because pleasure is the ultimate antidote to our disconnect from our sexual energy and life force. It is about rewiring your body towards pleasure.
I focus on what I call the “pleasure quota”, which is about getting to the baseline of pleasure you need so you can live in its overflow. The reality is that most women are depleted of the essential nutrient of pleasure and are running on empty. Since sexual energy is not necessary for survival in the moments of stress (be it external, such as from a partner or work, or internal, such self-doubt, self-criticism, and past trauma), our sex drive shuts down to give us energy to deal with stress.
The "pleasure quota" approach includes first learning to account for your energy and removing things, activities (and people) who drain you, learning to say no, listening to your body (not your head) for answers to what you want, learning how to relax, cultivating your sensuality, understanding and appreciating your life story and experience, and finding pleasure in life.
You will not only see changes in your body, libido and sexual responsiveness–this approach creates deep changes that permeate your work choices, overall life satisfaction, how you relate to others, and many other lifestyle choices, affecting your inner sense of power and leading to deep inner peace, calm and confidence.
What results can I expect?
You can expect:
- Feel energized, sexy and turned on in your body
- Reclaim your sexual desire
- Have more fun than you’ve ever had with sex, intimacy and relationships
- Uncover what really works for your body in sex and learn to ask for exactly what you want
- Enjoy a positive, self-image and attract people who appreciate you as you are
- Feel confident in your sexiness (whatever body size, shape or age you are)
- Exude a level of confidence that will make your friends say, “Wow, I want what she's having!”
- Attract the attention from men you want and feel confident and safe doing so
- Have the energy you need to create the fulfilling life and relationships you long for
- Heal emotional patterns that kept you stuck and in hiding for good
- Reclaim the sexual woman you know is waiting for you underneath
How can I experience your approach to see if it's the right fit for me to work with you?
If you're a woman who wants to reignite your desire, connect to your body and pleasure, and feel good about sex, and you’re interested in learning more about working together, I'd love to talk to you.
In our free 1-hour phone consultation, we will cover:
- Your biggest sex, sexuality and intimacy challenges at the moment
- What turns on you instead and what's important to you in your sex life
- Exactly what you can do to make powerful, permanent change to having the sex you love
At the end of your consultation, you will have a solid plan of action to permanently improve your sex life (and beyond).